What do rabbis and cantors think about intermarriage?


Can a rabbi or cantor officiate at an intermarriage?

The majority of Reconstructionist rabbis and cantors will perform interfaith marriages, and many Reform rabbis and cantors will do so as well. Conservative and Orthodox clergy, on the other hand, are not permitted by their professional organizations to consider performing an interfaith marriage without losing their affiliation with their specific movements.

See also: What are the different denominations (types) of Judaism?

Where can I find a rabbi or cantor to officiate at my intermarriage?

We at JOI believe that the wedding ceremony is only the beginning of a journey; we recommend that you find a rabbi with whom you feel comfortable and connected, so that he/she can guide you throughout your relationship. One way to find clergy is through local institutions that are welcoming and inclusive. Our web directory lists these kinds of institutions and programs, including synagogues, by state.

You can also contact us directly at JOI and we will try to refer you to a rabbi in your area.

Another resource, not affiliated with JOI, is the Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling (RCRC), which sells an updated list of three hundred Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis that officiate at intermarriages. The RCRC also sponsors a workshop on Raising Children in the Intermarried Home, and specializes in therapy for intermarried couples.

The Secular Humanistic Jewish movement maintains a list of their wedding officiants on-line here.